Ten years ago today my mother gave up her earthly battle with cancer to join heaven. I have had many years now to process her loss. She was a great mom, who showed me how to care and how to love. She loved her family with a complete devotion. We were not just her children but a link to herself. For that I was blessed. Now as I contemplate where she has gone, I have grown in my faith and I have observed many a book or article about loss. I am going to step out here and admit something I have to come to find comfort in that many may not understand, but some may. I don't believe she is watching over me and before you judge that statement read thought this as why. I believe she is part of the kingdom of God where she is not sad or in pain. Anyone who knew my mom would know watching us live out our lives and not be able to join in or help or dry our tears would tear her tender heart out. I am here to live out a purpose for God, my life has meaning deeper than anything I can understand. I will someday join my mother as like with pain, time has no meaning in heaven, we will not speak of the years separated, as no time exists. As hard as the concept is to wrap my mind around, she will exist with God and when I join her it will be for her as if no time has passed. I don't know how I could move on to fulfill God's call in my life if I thought every time I cry for her she cannot literally be here and make it better. In fact its painful for me personally to think of her watching me 10 years later moving on with life without her. I don't want to think of her watching me buy a mothers day card for someone else, or seeking answers to things as I grow from other women. Things she herself would have loved to teach me. I think its God alone who sends the purple flowers my mom said she would send to remind us of her (and I have found purple violets at every house we have purchased!) God understands my need to keep that connection to my mother because I do live in a time and I feel every day, week and year. When my children say good bye to me someday I want them to walk forward in whatever life God has for them with the full assurance I am in glory and happiness and freedom and they can join me, but for now its OK for people to move on and our loved ones are in happiness and freedom and God has us in his hand. Please don't flame for this point of view, I do not believe that thinking our loved ones are watching us is wrong. We cannot now that which is to come, its just my personal view. For today I will imagine my mom in heaven talking up a storm about her children and grandchildren with the wide smile she had. I will let my Savior comfort me.
Tonight as I sleep half way across the world a courageous 13 year old young lady will tell a court she would like to be adopted. Then all of the culmination of paperwork and visits and many, many fingerprint and doctor appointments collected over the past 15 months will be given to the court and in those few moments a family will be created. A girl who has not had the love of family will be forever joined after many years of waiting. A family with an empty bed will fill it with a child they will love always and forever. I remember 15 years ago becoming a mother and seeing my oldest daughter come into the world and all the anticipation and nerves bundled and my heart swelled. Now it swells again as my 8th child, Rosie joins our world in paper. If you haven't yet guessed, our court date is tomorrow!!! In a few weeks we will be united!!!!!!!!! Please pray everything goes smoothly!